I am sure we’ve all had feelings of wanting to be of service to others before. Whether it’s something we know we should have or something we actually feel. It’s definitely a great thing to help others. Not only would we feel a sense of accomplishment that we have done something good, if we can bring joy or alleviate pain for other people, it’s a great thing to do. You could also say it links to our happiness.
What’s The Best Way To Help Others?
So what is the best way to provide service to others? Is it empathy? Maybe sympathy? Or actually roll up our sleeves and do whatever we can to help them? I am sure different people have different preferences depending on the situation and their personalities. There is probably no one-size-fits-all approach. The answer could be all of the above things or a mixture of of above. But there is one key ingredient that is perhaps of the utmost importance, without it one cannot be of any help. You could have the best intention or best methodology, but without this key component it’s of no use.
Be In Alignment First
What is it? It’s to be in alignment with yourself. The very popular Abraham Hicks summed it up in a simple yet powerful way. It goes something like this (probably not exact words but close enough), ‘you won’t be of any help if you are not aligned with yourself first.’ In other words, you cannot help anyone if you are not in a good place (such as good mood, good form, good feeling, etc). We want to be helping others from a higher place that’s focused on the solution rather than the problem. We don’t want to be so empathetic that we feel sad or depressed like the person we are trying to help is feeling because we become problem focused. It doesn’t mean we cannot be empathetic or sympathetic, but we must first make sure that we are acting from a place of alignment.
Be Solution Focused
You might say it sounds pretty selfish. Yes, probably. But if our goal is to really help others and life them up, what matters is whether it works or not. Think about it, if you are feeling a bit down because of a particular situation, you’d want someone to give you confidence by showing you what the solution is, right? It doesn’t have to be perfect, but having someone shedding light on a potential solution goes a long way.
Prioritise Ourselves
Being in alignment means we should always prioritise ourselves. Things like paying attention to our wellbeing, happiness, inner-peace, joy, etc. would be very good places to start. It may be a little counterintuitive but it also makes a lot of sense. After all, why wouldn’t we want to emanate confidence and positivity in everything we do?